Showing posts with label These Difficult Times. Show all posts
Showing posts with label These Difficult Times. Show all posts

Thursday, July 16, 2009

Finding the Basics: Cocktail Dress Ed., Vol. 1

"Why not be one's self?  That is the whole secret of a successful appearance.  If one is a greyhound, why try to look like a Pekinese?" - Edith Sitwell (as pilfered from Tim Gunn's book, just because)

Back to our "splurge vs. save" list we recently worked on, let's work through those basic wardrobe items we each should have in our closet.  First up in this Pretty series is the go-to cocktail dress, which I argue is worth buying in the best quality that you can actually afford.  This is too weighty a subject to cover in one mere post - or was my ambition to write such a post derailed by the arrival of my "Mad Men" season 2 DVDs last night??? - so I'm going to touch on the basic dress today & move along to some other greats and accessorizing the next.

Ideally, the go-to cocktail dress can take you from work (in a professional environment, that is, as covered by a cardigan and daytime accessorized as appropriate), to an after-work party, to a dressier date, or to a semi-formal wedding.  For those of us residing in the more traditional bit of the US (read:  Texas or the South), I'll argue that this dress should neither be in black nor white for purposes of attending a wedding, where that is Just Not Done in certain circles, but I'll include my current LBD faves below.

For purposes of a go-to dress that will last you beyond the season - oh-so-important particularly now in These Difficult Times - I'm a fan of buying something in a very basic cut and pattern (or lack thereof).  If you get a classic enough silhouette, in a color unlikely to go out the next season (ie, not chartreuse), you can make it current or dress it up or down with your accessories (again, more on the accessorizing bit the next time).

Just to get the conversation started - again, my breaking this up into parts has nothing whatsoever with my writing life being derailed by a certain DVD set - here are some examples (all images credit to Chickdowntown unless otherwise noted):


Black Halo "Keyhole Ruffle Sheath":  In a color & lightweight blend material that would work for most seasons, this is a dress that could easily be dressed up or down; picture it with a blazer and conservative chemise underneath for work, for example.  More from this designer in a minute; as SLynnRo recently noted, this line has been everywhere lately and rightly so.

And on a related, recessionista note, look at what I found over at - I know, I know - Forever 21:

Forever 21 "Evangeline Dress":  Awfully similar for a literal fraction of the price - if you can bear to walk into the store, that is (as I always recommend you do, vs. ordering online, to assess the quality of this type of budget find).  This au courant grey both works for this fall, but isn't so trendy that you would have to replace it soon thereafter.

My two, Santa-please-bring-these-early LBD favorites, which I will try to bargain hunt for you once I get through these Season 2 DVDs again:


Black Halo "Maureen" Dress, probably the most classic, likely to last cut of all of these, and:

Black Halo "Jackie O." Dress (also available in to-die-for scarlet).

What do you think so far - any requests for Volume 2?   

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

The Pretty Style Bookshelf

Pets, I'm all out of substance after yesterday's post - let's return to the State of Superficial, shall we?

We talked about coming up with a clothing "splurge vs. save list" recently, which got me thinking more about how to build a wardrobe based on what is both flattering & largely designed to last beyond one season.  That sounds a bit obvious, but again, given These Difficult Times blah blah blah, I'm trying to focus even more on my Grandmother's mantra "Buy less, but better" instead of just purchasing what is merely on sale or en vogue.

To that end, I've consulted my bookshelf to consult those who actually know something about the matter, unlike this boring lawyer.  By a book's very nature, it won't be able to cover the fleeting fashions like a magazine or the 'net can, but the right one can be invaluable in creating a lasting style.  Here are a few nuts-and-bolts reads I've found both useful and just fun to look at over the years (all images credit to Amazon):


"What You Wear Can Change Your Life" by Trinny Woodall and Susannah Constantine. Don't be put off by the grandiose title - one, because I assume you wouldn't be reading this blog if you were a stranger to hyperbole; and two, because these two are spot-on with their advice on how to dress for your figure & complexion.  The latter is something that is frequently overlooked by the glossies, which irritates me to no end; obviously part of building a lasting wardrobe is finding the cuts and colors that actually work on you, and not just throwing on the latest trend.

Also, Trinny & Susannah's hysterical BBC show "What Not to Wear" is far superior to the American version, if you're a fan of style TV.


"InStyle Secrets of Style": I like this one for seeing outfits in action on celebrities, as well as their wardrobe basics approach. Some styles are dated, but the underlying content is good.


"Style" by Kate Spade: I'm not the KS aficionado like I once was, but on my more preptastic days, I love the retro illustrations, quotes, and traditional style advice.

"A Guide to Quality, Taste & Style" by Tim Gunn:  I'm going to confess something shocking to you . . . this book is winging its way to me just now, so I can't vouch for it yet.   Forgive me, Fantasy GBFF Tim Gunn, for I can't comprehend how I've survived without your sage advice until this point.  Two penalty shifts at "Mood" for me, at a minimum.

Per my International Woman of Mystery duties, I have a few long plane rides in my near future - any other style reads you would recommend?

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Darlings, I'd love your input on something - I'm considering moving my more personal posts elsewhere;  I enjoy writing those just as much as I do these Pretty posts, but I'm uncertain whether the two belong in the same space.  Do you like reading a bit of each here?

Please don't worry about hurting my feelings - I drowned those in a vat of Veuve long ago.  (I mean that) (sort of) (so long as you're polite) (because I'm like the Chinese government when it comes to comments, except with better accessories) (parentheses).  Thanks for your thoughts!

Edited to add: On a second read-through, it looks like I'm trolling for compliments here.  I'm not, truly. I will let you know, decisively, flagrantly, and none too subtly when I'm in search of flattery.  Which is the vast majority of the time, but not now.  

Monday, July 6, 2009

Where to Save & Where to Splurge

"Buy less, but better," my wise Grandmother once taught me, and I've attempted to spend my shopping dollars accordingly since.  Despite what you may think after reading this spenderific blog o' mine, my closet does not runneth over.  Generally speaking, I prefer to have fewer clothes, but ones that are the best I can afford.

That being said, I love my shoes, but I love my savings account much more; accordingly, there are some things on which I simply can't bring myself to spend much of the M-Word even if I'm technically able.  Plus, These Difficult Times being what they are, I'm thinking more about where to cut back.

This is a frequently visited issue, but given the times & how I'm sure you're sitting around, wondering "What would Pretty do?", I figured this was a good time to re-visit it.  Here is what I've come up with so far on my personal splurge vs. save list:

***DISCLAIMER*** To each your own as far as what is a "splurge" vs. "save"; one person's Prada is another's Payless, and all of the above is equally fine by me.  We all have our price points we're comfortable with - if in fact we're able to shop at all nowadays - and I pass no judgment on that here.  The only judgment I'll be passing is if you spend any amount of money on a jumpsuit.

SPLURGE-WORTHY: (Theme:  "If your accessories are good, you can cheat with the rest.")

Everyday Bag:  Remember back when I found this summer tote on-sale?  I tend to carry the same bag throughout a season, and I ask a lot of it - in addition to the usual practical matters, mine usually has a few work files, a book, ten mystery receipts, and a few snacks floating around in it.  I also expect to use the same bag for seasons to come, so I take it to my leather repair shop for fixings as soon as I notice damage & store it carefully.

Everyday Watch:  I have one classic, work-appropriate tank-style watch I wear most days for work and play; any trendy watches, like the white ones we discussed here, I'll only buy at a bargain.

A Pair of Good Work/Play Neutral Shoes:  For us women, this generally means one good pair of black or navy heels in a classic style that can look professional on the job, but get spruced up with the right cocktail attire outfit in a pinch.

Coats [both (1) winter and (2) trench]:  A good coat not only has to endure weather - or I imagine it does, for you Yankees who actually have things like rain and snow - but also a number of seasons.  I'm still wearing J Crew coats purchased in college, in a classic cut and good quality that still work today.

One Good Cocktail Dress:  A timeless cut in an occasion-neutral color (ie, not black or white) can see you through a nice dinner or wedding season.  Although I generally advocate the "Price Per Wear Test", one quality frock in which you feel amazing is key for those special occasions.

One Good Suit:   All of us, even those like me who don't work in a business-formal office, still need one of these, in the most classic & best material you can swing.  You don't want to be caught unprepared for an interview or other occasional "I need to look like an adult" occasion.

One Pair of Good Jeans:  For those of us who don't view "good jeans" as an oxymoron, one pair in a flattering rinse & fit will get you through date night or casual day at the office.

[Edited to Add:  You genius readers made some vitally important suggestions to this "Splurge" list;  I hereby add them as follows . . . ]

Work Jewelry "Staples":  The darling Brunch at Saks - one of my new favorite style reads, by the way - reminded me that there are a few jewelry items beyond a work-appropriate watch worth the investment.  This depends on your profession, naturally, but in my (v. conservative) one, a pair of pearl studs, diamond studs in a non-flashy size and cut, and a strand of pearls are the basics.

I emphasize that this is a "buy the best that you can actually afford" item; excellent fakes will do the job & have for me.  The trick is that they cannot look fake (at least, they can't in my work world);  if you, like many of us, can't swing the real deal, take time to find the best knock-off out there.  Inspect the real version at a quality jeweler, and then head to a decent costume jewelry department (Nordstrom is good for this) while the original is still fresh in your mind.

The LBD:  As the ever-chic Kristin mentioned, a little black dress of course will do a girl's dress-up wardrobe wonders.  If you're stretching a budget, I'd put this behind the "neutral" cocktail dress, which in theory could be worn both to most weddings & to dressy occasions, but it is nonetheless a staple if in a classic, non-trendy cut.

Undergarments:  New and delightful reader BoB raises an excellent question - what about the bras (I'm adding in a good strapless here) & panties (I'm adding necessary foundation items like Spanx for us 30+ types)?  

To a certain extent, this is personal preference.  I have had short-term luck stocking up on Target sale items here, especially in the undies section.  However, in my long-run experience (which is where the "Price Per Wear" test really factors in), I find that you get what you pay for, particularly when you're expecting your bras to perform Feats of Fradulent Boobitude as I am.

One Good Swimsuit:    Speaking of fraudulent, what sort of California girl am I to leave out one proper swimsuit?  Thankfully, the charming Princess Freckles is here to right my fashion wrong.

Like a "suit" suit, this is one that even if you don't need it now, you'll be thrilled to have one in a flattering cut and color in case of emergency - because there is little worse than the prospect of emergency swimsuit shopping, is there?  You can cheat with any additional swimsuits - Target usually has a good selection - but there's no argument that one quality one will do wonders for your swimsuit peace of mind (and will generally last longer than the cheapies).

SAVE WHERE YOU CAN:

Evening Bag / Shoes / Formal Dresses:  Because these only get trotted out every so often, these usually fail my "Price Per Wear" test.  Ironically, they also tend to be more expensive than the everyday stuff.  Nonetheless, I'll spend more time hunting for bargains here, especially for materials that can look expensive if done well (ie, metallics).

T-Shirts & Casual Jackets/Cardigans:  These do pass the PPW, but I just haven't seen a difference appearance or quality-wise between my Target & the pricey versions.  

Casual Dresses:  By this I mean "cotton dress able to withstand the scorching, Hell-death heat that is Texas summer".  As much as I admire & occasionally often fall victim to pricey frocks, there are usually good budget alternatives out there.

Casual Flats/ Sandals:  With the advent of the Target & Payless upping the quality here, plus the online sales at the moment, bargains abound in this area.  I do have my Revas as well, but for everyday, I shop the sales for these.

Non-Work Jewelry:  That woman hiding behind the big sunglasses, trying not to be seen as she rifles through Claire's or Forever 21 for costume baubles?  That's likely me.  On the higher end, Nordstrom usually has a good costume selection, but I don't see much point in spending on what is usually a trendy buy.

What am I missing?  Any suggestions for the list, which I will edit & update as we go?

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Thanks to this Shop It to Me post (Full Disclosure:  I have a cross-promotional, unpaid thingy with Shop It to Me, although they didn't ask me to or in any way suggest that I write this) for inspiring this post in part.

Thursday, April 2, 2009

Choose Your Own Adventure, Boring Adult Version

Class, please raise your hands if you're a book nerd highly literate like me & remember the "Choose Your Own Adventure" children's series.  These are the ones where the reader stars off with an thrilling, oh-so-slightly unrealistic adventure, such as a weekday shopping trip to Paris, and is presented with choices leading to different endings like:

- If you want to take a field trip to the Hermes factory and risk expiring from handbag happiness right then and there, turn to page 84;

- If you want to sit in your hotel and brood longingly at the Eiffel Tower in manner of that most American of tourists, Carrie Bradshaw, while your boyfriend ignores you, turn to page 52.*
*Yes, it's possible that I've watched too much HBO since my "Choose Your Own Adventure Days". 

Yesterday, layoffs struck at the Anonymous Husband's office.  Again.  He is still employed & absolutely fine - employed & fine, I promise! - but it's beginning to feel here at Pretty HQ like a Choose Your Adventure novel of a distinctly more grown-up, less entertaining variety:

- If you want to start panicking about the future and spending every last second checking the internet for more bad news, turn to page 36;

- If you want to keep perspective and recall that you both still have great jobs and there are many who need good thoughts and help, and those people aren't you, calmly turn to page 52.

I don't post this in hopes of stirring up more panic in These Difficult Times - this blog is about being prettier, not more paranoid, than nature intended - but just to say, I'm trying to keep hopes up & finding it difficult today to keep my characteristic perky, ebullient spirits**. I'm struggling to calmly turn to that theoretical page 52, count my blessings, AND ratchet up the savings. Because, unlike my favorite pulp fiction of youth, sometimes we have to take more than one ending into consideration before we turn the page.  
**Anyone buying the perky, ebullient bit?  Anyone?
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