It shouldn't have surprised me, then, when I recently did the math on how long the Anonymous Husband and I have been together, dating years included, and had a Moment when I realized we are approaching year 5. I hasten to add - I'm hastening so quickly, I risk injury to my glorious summer handbag here - that this doesn't mean that I am at all unhappy about this. Quite the contrary - to have found someone willing to put up with my nonsense for five years and beyond, particularly this AH someone, is nothing but a happy, happy blessing. I mean, I am good looking and all, but even then . . .
As something of a serial monogamist, I've come close to this five year mark before in a dating context. Those being in non-marital situations, of course, year 5 was anticipated in slightly differently manner; I'm relieved that this milestone with my actual spouse hasn't been sprinkled with that formerly delightful seasoning of subterfuge and passive-aggressive attempts to get the other one to do the breaking up.
Ecstatic as I am about the State of My Union, I can't help but wonder - what changes lay around this mysterious Year 5 corner? I'm mature enough to know - stop laughing - that people do change, even in (especially?) in the context of a marriage, but my mind keeps spinning off in various directions about this. For example:
What if he suddenly decides to drop out of life and start wearing appalling Christian Audigier tees while dating the 23-year-old daughter of my (future) plastic surgeon?*
*As much I'm trying not to fan the "Plus 8" fires, I mean . . . I mean . . . really?
What if I suddenly decide to drop out of life and start wearing appalling Christian Audigier tees while dating the daughter of my (future) plastic surgeon?
The best that any of us can hope for is to continue to change in the same direction as our spouse, right? AH, I promise to keep this in mind as we approach the 5-year mark and lay off the "What next?" thinking - so long as you vow never to don the tragic, pre-mid-life-crisis t-shirts, that is.











