Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Smug Mummy Needs Your Help - The Death of The Nap (!!!)

Because the Internet has a sense of humor and approximately two seconds after I wrote this sleep training post, guess who has officially decided to mail in his one remaining nap?

*DOOOOOOOOMMMMMM*

His level of nap-free glee here is inversely related to my feelings about its demise. DOOOOOOM.

Yes, I know. Those (words I will not use on a family blog, damn it) expert sleep books all say that at 25 months the vast majority of kids are still napping, and the vast majority of kids we know at this age are still napping. *I* would very much like to still be napping.

Thing is, you know that parenting spidey sense you just get, advice and books be hanged?

He's done, folks. I've been fighting it for months, but like so many things parenting, what I have dearly wished would happen just isn't what my wee CEO is meant to do. Won't be the last time, will it?

It's been a slow slide into the nap-free abyss, but sure enough he's now skipping a good 1/2-3/4 of his naps and able to make it to an earlier bedtime on skipped days with only the occasional, if spectacular, meltdown. A nap does guarantee sanity (mine) and better moods (his and mine), but it now results in his falling asleep absurdly late and fighting it at that.

As Nordstrom is my witness, he will continue to get one hour of quiet time in his room around the Nap Hour (R.I.P.). Period, end of sentence, because Mama says so, get off my lawn!!!

My question for you, the Mamarazzi - do I go ahead and move him from his crib into a twin bed, just in case he occasionally wants to nap during that Quiet Hour - ahahahaha? Or keep the crib as long as he'll stay in there at night, leaving no daytime nap option?

Or are you of the "Insist on a nap 'til he leaves for grad school, whether he sleeps or not" school of thought?

Does it change it your analysis that have Big Events like a family vacation (ooh, foreshadowing!) and nursery school coming up soon, and I'm hesitant to change too much at once?

How have you handled the Death of Nap?

17 comments:

Lisa @ Trapped In North Jersey said...

my older two boys napped till they were four. My daughter, on the other hand, gave up the nap at 2, which *I* was not ready for. However, once I stopped fighting the no-nap, bedtime vastly improved. With naps she went to bed at 8 pm and had giant hissy fits for an hour and a half. Once we gave up the nap she passed out cold within seconds of her 7 pm bedtime. So....its not all terrible?

One thing--I still can't put her in a car past 3 pm, she'll fall asleep and then bedtime is screwed. I just run errands in the morning.

Lisa @ Trapped In North Jersey said...

forgot to answer your question---I have left my kids in a crib as long as possible; both boys transitioned at 4. But they also weren't potty trained till 4. My daughter is 3 and I am considering moving her to a toddler bed because she is potty trained and shrieks at me to come get her in the middle of the night to go potty, at which point it is usually too late. But I know if I put her in a toddler bed with the means of getting out she will be awake and in my bed every single night.

The Sekis said...

I think you know my opinion on the crib issue...keep them in the crib as long as possible! We waited until around 3 with the twins. What about giving him some toys/books and putting him in his crib for the quiet time? He may just play or he may even fall asleep after a little play time.

Erin said...

I have no business commenting because I have no experience with ANYTHING you've asked about :) And yet...here I am!

When I thought she was giving up her afternoon nap, I (out of accidental necessity one day) moved her nap up from 1:30 to 11:30...she never skipped a nap again. I don't know if she was TOO TIRED to sleep and I was missing her window by putting her down later in the afternoon? Anyhow, now bedtimes also go off without a hitch at 7pm.

So, all this is to ask - have you fiddled with his nap time? Earlier/later? Or tried doing a nap every other day?

Also, I think I'm keeping her in the crib for as long as possible...until potty-trained like Lisa said sounds good to No Idea What I'm Doing little ol' me :)

Erin said...

Ditto to the previous comment...if he's IN the crib it's GOT to increase the odds of a nap...right?

Spiff said...

With my daughter (now 8) we kept her in her crib until she outgrew it. With my son (3) he was waking up SO many times a night, and it finally got better once we moved him into a bed. Who would've thought??!!

Whitney said...

Hang on to the crib for a bit longer. If he's that tired during quiet time, I bet he'd fall asleep on his rug with a blanket!

Linds said...

I feel like at 2 kids normally try to fight naps but aren't ready to completely drop them, thus they tend to get back to routine. BUT it takes a bit. My first was that way, and still takes a nap (he's 3.5). My second is 21 months and is starting to fight naps/bedtime. It sucks, but I say insist of him being in there for at least a quiet time. Chances are, he'll quit fighting and nap when he grows out of this phase.

On transitioning to a toddler/twin bed: for the love of all things holy, keep the crib as long as you can. My oldest went to a toddler bed at 22 months (he was climbing out on his own-dangerous!), and our sleep went to the crapper. He was up out of bed numerous times in the night, getting into things, etc. Awful. This is why my youngest will be in a crib till grade school. Just kidding. Kind of. ;-)

Emily said...

Will he scream if you put him in the crib with a bunch of toys of his choice for quiet time? Unless we've been to the pool, it takes her a while to fall asleep for nap, but she gets to take any of her "guys" in there with her.

r&cmartinez said...

My little guy would skip nap if he had toys in the crib with him, so I took all toys and books out and forced him to stay in the crib for at least one hour. He would sleep at daycare, where they pat his back til he's out. Either way, I'm a fan of a crib for as long as possible.

The Waspy Redhead said...

"As Nordstrom as my witness" is probably the funniest thing I've read on the internet this week. It's literally my job to read funny things on the internet, so that's saying something. Thanks for the giggles. Per usual, I'm of no help re: parenting advice.

Sarah said...

I, personally, would throw him in the crib for quiet time with lots of toys & books and hope he maybe (?) chooses to nap at least some of the time, on some occasions. Oh, and earplugs or drinking alone on the back porch so you don't have to listen to the screaming. (Sidenote: before I had my son I would totally have judged that last comment but now it's just, well, my life). Hopefully said screaming will subside? It seems to after a few days, anyway, when it comes up in my house.

Amy @ Forever 29 said...

Oh, Master P, don't you know Mommy needs some time to blog and chat with her invisible internet friends?

I too would be hesitant to change anything until after vacay and maybe even until after preschool starts. That may wear him out (fingers crossed.) Nate went through a nap strike that lasted nearly 6 weeks...or at least it felt that long. I stuck to my guns for "rest time" and he naps probably 4 out of 7 days a week. I agree with providing extra toys and distractions and maybe even bumping it later in the afternoon which finally helped us get back on track. As always, lots of opinions but I hope you will find something that works for y'all!

Kate said...

Oh man! So rough when they won't nap. I second many of the other comments-try making nap earlier (he could be overtired) or later. I definitely think at this age they still need a rest time so stick with an hour rest. But if you and your husband are OK with an earlier bedtime then don't stress too much. I predict school will exhaust him and he might go back to napping once that starts. Fingers crossed!

Meg said...

Brutal.

Keep the crib. Maybe create a "doggy bed/ book nook"area in his room - ikea toddler mattress in corner with pillow (or stored under crib) with pillows, and books he can hang in quietly and possibly pass out. Putting a gate in his doorway is an option too. My friend doesn't let her son out of his room until 8am. She gets showered and dries her hair then gets here little man.

Rough losing mid day peace. It is true you gain your "me" time it in evening (though mayu mean dh has to miss him) Highly recommend joining a gym with great childcare!

LPC said...

My daughter gave up napping some time around this age. Icould still get 45 quiet minutes by stocking her room with play figures. I could hear her in her bedroom, making them talk to each other, as I lay on the sofa reading in the living room:).

Eat. Live. Laugh. and sometimes shop! said...

It is devastating. I was a sleep / nap nazi, but eventually you have no choice but to admit defeat. And really, the earlier bed time that results is its own little reward. For a while.

I had moved my duo into beds before they gave up their naps. Regardless of the bed / crib dilema, I would continue to insist on quiet playtime in his room. This worked like a dream for me. My daughter never napped again. My son, however, we often fall asleep on the floor while playing. Literally - face down in a pile of legos. I never understood it, but I didn't question it either. Point being: if he needs to sleep he will find a way.

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