"It's so great, this Facebook age," our friend, a fellow parent visiting from out of town, enthused over dinner the other night. "I feel like I've known Master P as he's grown up through the photos you post."
|Photo credit: amazing Austin wedding & family photographer Z|
"Sort of," I thought to myself, "But that isn't the whole story . . ."
(And, yes - I realize my friend's statement may have been code for "DUDE, lay off the constant kid photos already!" Duly noted. However, this particular friend posts just as many kid photos, so pot = kettle. Hmmph.)
As one who logs onto things like Facebook to see two things - (1) photos of my friends and their respective matchings & hatchings; and (2) reassurance that my exes are indeed more rotund / balding than they once were - I myself adore these sorts of photos, and no, not just mine.
I wonder, though, if something is getting lost through this social media sense of closeness. In this constant sharing of the external - those seemingly perfect families grinning smugly at the camera - are we sometimes missing the back story, the actual child behind the perfectly coordinated (and miraculously clean) BabyGap?
Photos tell an important part of the story, but isn't there more to knowing someone than that? Not that other people find us or our children nearly as fascinating as we do, but still. Still . . .
For example, that darling of snap of Master P you see up there - it's a gorgeous shot, full stop, but did you know he was trying to run into the lake just off camera for the whole of that shoot?
You can't see the way when he's playing cars (approximately 95% of his waking hours) he bellows "VROOOM!"and grips an imaginary steering wheel so tightly he appears to be commandeering
You can't feel the sweetness of when, out of nowhere, he runs up to me and gives me a gentle hug, resting his head on my shoulder for a too-brief moment before running back to the game du jour.
You can't hear the way he whispers "miaow" when he sees a cat (does your cat whisper? apparently ours does) or proudly shouts "TED!" when something r-e-d rolls by.
In a good photo, like the (professional) ones here, you do see a glimpse of that, but it's that - a glimpse. As wonderful as this social media stuff can be sometimes, keeping us connected across a distance, sometimes there's just no substitute for the original, is there?
|photo credit: ziem photography|
Those of us who like to create - photographers and bloggers alike - can only hope to capture that glimpse. Here's to the pursuit of both the ideal and the real, as well as more dinners with good friends.