Monday, January 2, 2012

No Mo' Mondays: When the Wrong Job Leads to the Right One

As I sit here noodling around with this post on a Sunday evening, a bit peaked hungover but excited about the new year - happy 2012! - something is missing.

There are no more Mondays in my world - or, more specifically, no more grey cloud of dread that used to loom over my weekends as I contemplated returning to a job I always enjoyed more in concept than in reality.

I've danced on the grave of my legal career many a time here; longtime readers will recall that, after seven years of practice, I was thrilled to hang up the Ann Taylor to be a stay-at-home Smug Mummy. Not only because was it the right decision parenting-wise for my family - (but not necessarily for yours because For the Love of Nordstrom there's no one universal right answer here and can't we all just be glad we women now have the right to decide what's best for our respective families?) (deep breaths) (parentheses) - but also because I was ready to move on to a vocation I felt passionate about. I don't at all regret having given the law a chance, but I'm also proud to have stepped away after having thoroughly proven that it wasn't my right answer.

It kinda came full circle for me tonight, as I sit here enjoying some blessed post-NYE quiet snarfing cookie dough while the AH is away, because it doesn't count if no one sees - much like those Life Goals I fretted about for so many years, I wonder if the long time spent in the wrong job threw this time in the right one into greater relief, in all senses of that phrase?

Feel free to leap on my #yuppiewhitegirlproblems perspective here - for starters, I'm admittedly in the fortunate position that I get to leap from a lucrative job to this unpaid one. I get that, and I'm immensely thankful for it, pinky swear. Plus, being grateful for having spent ten years, between law school & practice, in the wrong job could fairly be called revisionist history - couldn't I have ended up in the right career for me minus the headaches and the student loans?

Maybe - but that isn't how it worked for me, and my hope for any of you reading this & fretting about What You Should Do When You Grow Up is that any initial wrongs lead to eventual rights too. If the Plan A job ends up not being what you hoped, that doesn't mean you're doomed to it forever. In my twenties, I wasted a lot of time worrying that I had to figure out the One and Only Perfect Job for Me and felt plenty guilty when I started to suspect the Law wasn't it sometime around, oh, the first semester of law school. Let me spare you that guilt - it just ain't so.

Sometimes the wrong job is just the precursor to the good stuff. Mondays don't always have to be Mondays:




Okay, fine, these photos were technically taken on a Friday, but my point is - how awesome is this? This, this is what my working days look like now. I took the long road here, but - praise Neiman Marcus - I'm *here*. Finally.

11 comments:

Whitney said...

Amen and amen. Though I was only in my "career" for 3 years before donning the SAHM status, it was a long 3 years. Knowing all along that my heart only desired to be at home with my yet unborn children... it was pretty miserable at times. I had to pray for a lot of patience while I waited to get to this point. But now, it's like a big exhale. No more Mondays. It's an amazing thing.

CJA said...

amen!! have a GREAT day in your new adventure as a SAHM I had to wait almost 2 years to stay home :) great post! happy new year!
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Natalie said...

Fantastic post! I'm due in July and really feel being a SAHM is the route I want to take. I have been been in my field for 11 years now (plus grad school), but it is time for a change!

Elz said...

I love how you invoke the name of Neiman Marcus & Nordstrom. Ha. I always say that there are a number of careers in which I could be very happy. My mantra has always been two-fold- I am not defined by my career and motherhood does not define me, I define it. Using those two thoughts, I try to remember that I am more than just an attorney or M & Em's mom, I am the sum of ALL my parts. Keeps me somewhat balanced.

Amy @ Forever 29 said...

Those pics of MP are still killing me...such the man. I know when I do go back to work I will have such high expectations for the position...not much beats this SAHM gig in my mind!

Lauren said...

I'm so glad I found your blog.

Lauren @ Adventures of a Southern Newlywed said...

I love this post & am so glad you're enjoying your new job! :-)

Ashlegih said...

Hey Melissa! I just found your blog through the Breakfast At Toast blog and I feel like this post of yours is exactly something I could/would write on my own blog :) I'm 3 weeks in to my new job as a SAHM - and I feel just as you do - relieved to be doing what I truly love, blessed to be in the fortunate position to be able to stay home and grateful to live in an era where women can CHOOSE what is best for them and their families in this regard :) Good luck with it all - I'm glad you seem to be enjoying it as much as I am :) Stop on by my blog if you get a chance: www.themommystop.com

Kate said...

What a great post! I am so happy you have found the perfect job :) Master P is so lucky to have you at home with him

Ashley said...

Wow, could not agree with you more. I am in my second year of practice and wonder the same things...

Maybe one day I can be a SAHM and leave the law behind, too!

Arielle said...

Great post! I love your blog, new follower:)
You have me kind of nervous though! I am wanting to apply to law schools and have always dreamed of staying at home oneday when I have a family. But when you're in school and finishing up undergrad having a family isn't always the first thing thats right around the corner. Oh how, I just wish it was easier. Ha:)

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