It took a chat with an older, wiser friend over the weekend to realize that I've entered the "Remarry & Reproduce" next phase of Secret Group-Decision Making. Weddingpalooza 2011 will conclude with my having attended five weddings all together - all out-of-state - and those are just the ones we were able to attend. This number includes the second weddings of two dear friends, whose first weddings I attended just a few years back. This year I've also sent more adorably monogrammed first baby gifts than I care to remember - after having received a gazillion billion last year when, at age 32, I was one of the first of us to have a child.
|This photo is apropos of absolutely nothing in this post except he's (1) cute; (2) mine; and (3) I felt like it.|
|Someone is VERY pleased with himself for figuring out how to sit up in Big Boy Chairs like this.|
This isn't a complaint - ok, it is in regards to my American Express bill, which has seen more action this summer than Don Draper in a room full of secretaries - so much as an expression of bittersweet surprise. In all the Life Stage Planning stuff I got caught up in during my teens and 20s, I forgot that there might be both a first and second (and, possibly, additional) round of weddings, and that the kids may be coming not in our twenties but thirties and forties too. Not to wish divorce on any of us, of course, but - that the happy endings may not come in the tidy package we imagined as young 'uns, but that we might be so fortunate as to eventually get an eventual stab at them - this, darlings, gives me hope.
And so it goes on. That same friend - one of those who happened upon the right marriage the second time around - tells me that the Secret Board Meetings continue on throughout life. I may soon find myself in the "major career moves and second babies" phase, to be followed by the one she finds herself in now - the mixed bag of "graduations & life-threatening illness" era. I only ask that there be a "able to send my child to college and keep up all with these changes" phase in between...
What phase are you in? Am I missing something in between now & sending Master P off to OxforStanYaleHarvardbridge aka University of No Pressure?