Wednesday, July 27, 2011

From GC to Chief Trophy Wife: A Stay-At-Home Mom Reflects

Since the Anonymous Husband & I decided that I'd retire from my general counsel gig to be a stay-at-home mom, few are the moments in which I've questioned that decision. My general sanity, often, but the choice to parent Master P full time, even when wildly, teeth-gratingly exasperating, is one I've mostly embraced. I feel stupidly lucky to be able to do, if I'm being honest (for once).

Tonight, however, I tripped over one of those rare moments of doubt. After whipping up an actually tasty (as opposed to theoretically tasty, my usual M.O.) Italian dinner, I hunkered down - in my "Trophy Wife" apron, no less - to finish my personalized recipe binder project.

And here you thought I was kidding about the apron.

"Is this what I passed two Bar exams and learned all those pretentious Latin terms for?" I mused as I enclosed the last recipe, torn from some Smug Mummy "Cooking For Your Family Organically, Sustainably, and Taste-Free-Ly" magazine, in its little plastic tomb. "Next thing you know, I'll be ordering one of those Intergalactic Type-A Mom Organizer Agenda Uber-Schedules of Doom that Blogworld is all atwitter about again."

I paused to take another bite of said tasty dinner - believe me, I'm just as surprised as you are by this all-too-rare cooking result - and checked the video monitor, observing the slumbering Master P as I chewed on the thought. Am I OK with a life of cutesy aprons & insanely well-organized recipe binders?

The answer is yes - for now, at least. Should the need or career inspiration strike at a later date, the AH & I will revisit it then. In the meantime, I'll apply my Type A-Minus lawyering skills to keeping pediatrician appointments straight and accidentally cooking tasty meals; they're more related than you would think. And not to get too "I am woman, hear me roar" screechy about it, but I'm heartened and grateful to have the choice to decide what's right for my Ralph Lauren ad-style family, which may change at a later date, and which is not necessarily the same as what is right for yours, blah blah blah.

Either way, I'm keeping the apron. 

9 comments:

Dollface said...

You should always go with your gut for these things. You will be a great stay at home mom, trophy wife, or lawyer.... you can be great at anything! xxoo

Cheryl E. said...

Thanks for this post. I am actually a full time working mama (work as a paralegal) and crave to stay at home. But I keep questioning myself if I should. Its comforting to see that people still question themsevles when they are in the other position. Parenting is such a hard thing and I want to do the right thin. Thanks for this post. :)

Princess Freckles said...

I think you're very blessed to be able to stay home with your son right now. Sure, as he grows older, you might explore other opportunities, and I can understand that sometimes you want to stop and evaluate the decision. It's a huge one!

Personally, I don't think I'd consider "planning for a family" until we were in the position for me to be home, at least for a few years. However, everyone is different, and that is what makes motherhood, families, and careers, a rather personal choice.

Mommy, Esq. said...

Great post! I am in the same boat as you! Former big law firm attorney, licensed in two states, who is now a full-time SAHM. Most of the time I feel incredibly lucky that I have the privilege of staying home with my two beautiful girls...and then one of my husband's colleagues asks me if I'm going back to work...or one of my friends who was also a SAHM declares she's going back to work....or I don't get out of my pjs until 5 min before hubby gets home from work (he cant know I didn't get out of my jammies all day!). On some of those days, I question my decision. So thanks for keeping it real with this post today!

for a different kind of girl said...

I've loved all the years I've been able to be home withe the boys. Sure, there's been plenty of exhausting, sure would be nice to enjoy a vacation, how are we going to pay for THAT moments, but I wouldn't change any of it. I think, though, that it might be holding me back now in getting struck by some career inspiration now that the boys are older and some days I'm really just a taxi...but I'm stalling on trying to be struck by it! The inspiration AND the parent taxi.

Cricket said...

Love the apron! xo

rebecca said...

Ohh, Hello, Hello!!!! Just stumbled across your blog... in our house the joke is one must have a PhD to be a stay-at-home mommy. Looking forward to perusing your blog! P.S. I'm having luck with Ina Garten's recipes consistently turning out. Best Wishes!

Maggie said...

Oh god, your description of the damn AGENDA! Killed me. Truly.

Kristen at The Red Velvet Life said...

I admire your decision! Like you mention, it's such a blessing to be able to decide. You've clearly made wonderful choices in your life, both personally and professionally, that allow you to make decisions for your family as you see fit. So, I say go for it - live life on your terms! :) (This is sounding very girl power-ish, but I've always liked that stuff!)

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