. . . until recently, when a particularly odious chore involving taxes happened upon the Un-Pretty household. This time-sensitive task prompted a game of marital chicken over who was to address the issue, and I Mrs. Un-Pretty lost. Both her temper and the chore, that is.
Pets, how do you come to an agreement over these household horrors which neither of you want to complete - Rock / Paper / Scissors? Subterfuge? Or do they need to resort to their friend of old, Grey Goose? The Un-Prettys both being of the lawyerly persuasion, I'm sure you understand why logical reasoning simply won't do here . . .
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Being a member of the CPA recovery program, I can truly understand your pain and from years of experience can assure you that lots of Grey Goose is the only answer to that dilemma
Hmm, I always wonder about these issues as well. If I need something done around the house, I like to barter..."sweetheart, can you clean the bathroom? and then when I get home I'll do the floors?" Or, you know, something like that. Sometimes, you have to create a chore to make it worthwhile. You know? :)
I handle all finances including taxes sadly.
Here's why: Mr. N is quite a catch but organization and anything involving a calculator are not tasks for him.
I find drinking wine helps.
Oh no. Yuck. I am so glad I am terrible at math and can't even balance my checkbook.
As for us. We take turns. We have been doing so, respectfully, for 9 years. "I slept in yesterday so you can today" is a convo that goes on every weekend. The same applies for all other tasks.
Unfortunately being a newly minted newlywed I have zero advice on this subject. I look forward to a follow up wherein you share your tips on emerging victorious in such situations.
We have a lot of conversations that include the phrase "If I do this, then can you do this" or "I did this last time, so now its your turn". And when that doesn't work - then we have the discussion of if it would be easier and much wiser, to hire someone else to do to do the task.
Hmmm i dont have any hubby experience, but with other things, I think we just balance them... although I am prob not going to be in charge of the money, since I have a shopping problem :) xxooo
I love reading your blog, It makes me smile even when the subject matter isn't funny! My theory on getting my hubby to do things I don't want to is to leave them until the last possible moment and then when he asks if I did what it might be, I just say "Oh, I was supposed to do that?" With innocent eyes of course... Then because he wants to make sure it actually does get done, he just does it! ;)
Surprisingly, I'm the tightwad in the relationship. I oversee our bank accounts, and our bills, for the most part, but, the husband does the taxes because I do not have the patience for that.
He has yet to figure out how to remove and or insert dishes into or out of a dishwasher however....
The longer we were married, we began to realize that we were each better at different kinds of things, so we began dividing the chores up that way. When there was something we both sucked at, or hated to do, we hired someone else to do it, or split the duties. But, then again, we got divorced. So perhaps you should completely ignore my advice entirely. :)
I handle the bill paying, etc. but he handles the taxes - mostly because his business complicates the issue so much, I can't even fathom the details (and by "fathom" I mean I'm too lazy to learn).
I think we both take over the tasks that we think we'll be naturally better at - so when something arises that I don't want to handle? I say "you can do it better" - although when that's thrown back in my face (such as "sandwiches taste so much better when you make them") I get annoyed, so it's not a perfect plan.
Best way to solve this issue - both of you agree to meet with an accountant and pay a little to have them done - usually if an accountant does them, you pay a little, but get a lot more back than you normally would because they know the loopholes!
I don't have to do this because I'm marrying an accountant! Whoopeeee!
I handle all of the finances so taxes fall to me every year. The good news...We pay our financial guy to do them for us! Its one of the best decisions we make every year.
For some reason, it seems I do a disproportionate number of the tasks around here, which explains why I've taken to leaving all the folded laundry in its baskets upon the living floor until someone other than me carries them upstairs and puts it away...finally, and without me resorting to demands or the shakes (mine, not his).
I've also noticed that since the nice weather returned and we have a child old enough to push a mower that the ratio of indoor to outdoor deligated tasks have also changed. You know, I really think I need to have some kind of contract drawn up!
My husband and I have a knock down drag out fight over dishes, laundry, and who changed the cat litter last but when it comes to taxes, bills, and anything else like that my husband just does it happily. He would much rather have a hissy fit over the fact that I put dishes in the sink instead of on the counter.
This one is beyond our capacity to address, somehow we have managed to avoid such a place, knock on formica-covered-desk. But knowing your prowess when it comes to assisting others through your powers of persuasion, we're betting on Miss Pretty over the long haul.
Indeed.
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I honestly don't think we've encounter such a task yet. How is that possible?
We outsource everything because he knows that Happy Wife Without Dishpan Hands means Nag-Free Husband with Potential for Sex and Footrubs.
flip a coin?
We outsource a bit of the chores. Thanks goodness! I haven't cleaned a toilet since I got married and I'm much happier that way. As far as financials, I leave that to the man of the house.
I usually play the I birthed your giant baby card. Until you can use that one, I'm all for outsourcing too. When neither of us has the time or the will we call my Mom's cleaning lady. Sad but true.
Ummm...hire someone?
yeah...we outsource.
LOL
hello stopping in from sits
the buzz,
Brandy
There are definitely standoffs in our house, much like what you described. Most of the time we run like a well-oiled machine, but sometimes I choose stubborn over get-the-job-done. The funny thing is I usually get over it and then complete the task before he even realizes what happened :)
Wait until you have a baby, and you will be playing rock, paper, scissors at 2am, trying to decide who should wake up. This is my life now. :-)
we pass that junk along. and then we go out =)
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