It hit me as the BF-M & I turned a casino corner, en route to the Vegas Bar du 15 Minutes last Saturday evening. Upon encountering the endless sea of primped, tanned, bleached clubgoers clamoring at the velvet rope - without so much as a word to one another - we swiftly made a left turn into the Chanel boutique instead.
There are some friendships that are limited by those conventional phases in life, the people who subconsciously will fit you in so long as the correct checkmarks - Married? Kids? - are marked off. Likewise, there are people about whom you probably think to yourself, "If only they didn't have kids (or did have) already, we'd be such good friends." I don't propose that this is a negative thing; we can only have so many close friends. I mean, good friends tend to deplete one's wine supply, so I think we can agree that caution is best here.
What touched my icy, unfeeling self just a tad this Saturday night - well, aside from the jewelry counter - was the recognition that I am slowly passing from one excellent phase of life to another, and that I have a few very good people who can make that leap with me. Not to say that I won't darken the doorstep of a chic bar or ten again twenty-something style**, but if I feel like staying in, there are friends for me, and I suspect for many of us here, who will happily join in. Particularly if Chanel is involved.
**And certainly not to say that I imbibe much less, but the thirty-something hangovers? Oy.
Edited to Add: For those who asked about my Chanel purchases, I didn't make any, but thank you for grasping the deeply meaningful and hugely important part of this post.
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I'm so grateful for my few friends that will always get "it" whatever that may be at whatever time.
This is a great post - and so parallel to my own experience right now of going through transitions and recognizing who is going "with" me. Beautiful.
Such good stuff here. I adore those feeling of continuity with girlfriends - sometimes it's impossible to feel safer than when you both make the same transitional moment together, without a word.
From my bachelorette weekend: staying up all night in a shared bedroom with my college freshman roommate Amy. Only ten years later, we had her real estate options spread on the bed before us instead school work. Different, but the same in all the ways that matter.
I was just talking to my BF who is in Dallas about how it has been so hard to find the good, quality friends who really understand what you're going through and are ready to go through it with you. I love this post.
I wrote something about Frenemies last week.. its so hard to be nice to people after a certain age.... also, Chanel... ooo im swooning :)xxooo
Friendship, Schmendship DID YOU BUY ANYTHING AT CHANEL?
This quiet phase will prepare you for the next one: when the kids are finally out of the house and you and your husband/or BF want to cut loose again! Though our cutting loose usually ends about 10 pm. But still, partying is partying.
Wonderfully said!
Hahah but laughing at Slynn's comment!
Very sweet, LBM.
But seriously - what did you score at Chanel?
Very true about depleting the wine supply...I try to keep my friendships limited for that very reason! ;) Great post!
I totally get where you are coming from. Making the transition from single to married and all that comes with moving to a new city was tough... it was amazing to know that I had my core girls there to jump with me, even if they couldn't physically be here to hold my hand along the way.
excellent post. up until a few months ago i was really struggling with finding those people who were in the same stage as me, but thank god for blogging, because it has brought so many amazing people into my life.
I know exactly what you mean. Unlike you, though, Husby and I are getting ready to move out to the suburbs, and most of our friends are light years away from joining us. That means we'll be making new friends soon, which is kinda scary. We've been living in this comfortable little place for quite some time with our current group, and it's all about to change...
We are just wowed by Mr. Pretty's capacity to segue effortlessly into the Chanel shop! And we do love the sentiment expressed in this post Miss Pretty, it really is such a wonderful description of something we have felt at times.
Glad you are having fun!
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Great post. But you should have bought something. :)
Love the Edited to Add part of the post...this is a good one, and so very, very true
I've had SUCH a hard time with this lately. Soemtimes I feel like I'm surrounded by people in such earlier stages of their lives and it makes me rethink everything and feel like I'm OLD! That being said, I'm so happy that have strong friendships over my lifetime that are there forever and for the people I've met through blogging...it helps even things out for me in the long run!
I can't believe you didn't buy anything!
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