(*10-ish years because I did not, of course, frequent bars 10 years ago when I was a mere 20 years old. Nope.)
Legallyblondemel Thought Process While Sitting in a Bar, Aged 21-Ish
"Ooh, look at that guy at the next table. Pretty shoulders. And I look OK in these jeans. AAACK, did I remember to put on deodorant? ((surreptitious sniff)) He looks like a Bret. Bret Jones. Hmmm, how does 'Mrs. Legallyblonde Jones' sound? Legallyblonde Jones, Legallyblonde Jones, la la la la wedding bells la la . . . oh, um, he left. Where's my jello shot?"
Legallyblondemel Thought Process While Sitting in a Bar This Weekend, Aged 30
"Ooh, look at that girl's shoes. Nordy's? I wonder if I can ask her. No, that would be too weird. She looks so cute and nice though & reminds me of friend X back home. Maybe I can send Anonymous Husband to ask her about the shoes. Oh, God, no - that really sends the wrong 'HBO Special' message. Geez, I'm the dumbest of the dumb. At least I look OK in these jeans. AH, where's the pinot?"
Conclusion
Swap out eyeballing potential husbands for potential friends, and not much has changed in 10-ish years. Except for the pinot, which is an excellent decision for many reasons (I'm looking at you, Rosarito Beach. And not through Corona-colored glasses this time). This whole making girlfriends after college & in a new town thing is a bit tricky. Raise your hand if you're with me!
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Mel ~~
I received my sTORI TELLING today in the mail! I can't wait to snuggle up next to Hubby with it while he reads his Einstein bio. tee hee. I'm going to pull it out this weekend when we get some really good snuggly reading time!
Thank you!!!
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xoxo Petunia
Oh, and yes!
I'm with you on this one, girlfriend!
Cute guy=big yawn.
Cute pair of new shoes=Oooooh!
LOL!
so hilarious and so true!!!
I am with ya - love your blog!
Hand raised, over here! It's tricky at any age... tread carefully.
So true, my blog friend! What a great observation!
By the way, you are now officially on Granny's blog roll. So very good to have you!
Totally with you on this one -- and I'm not even in a new town (just watching all of my old friends keep moving to new towns!)
::raises hand:: Not that I'm in a "new" town, but, most of my friends have left. Or had babies. So, I'm right back there with "hmm, how do I talk to new people" phase.
I am SO with you! There are SO many people in Manhattan, and yet it is SO hard to meet new girlfriends here! Doubly hard to meet couples for any type of double dating situation as well.
I always have that same inner monologue you had with the shoes- I say always go on the side of asking! Everyone is always flattered by a compliment ;)
Oh god, you have no idea how many times my fiance and I have this conversation. I swear, unless you have kids, it is impossible to meet people. I mean seriously how HOW? to you make girlfriends?
Preach on sister Blonde!!! =)
we left alittle something on our blog for you :) check it out!!
Well now Miss Pretty, if this isn't spot-on, we don't know what is. Yes indeedy, *most* insightful, as always.
Happy day!
tp
Yes, so true.
OMG YES....totally true. Although I have reached the "friend spotting" age more quickly now that I am married.
oh I feel ya! After college I lived in NYC for a year and a half and wanted to cry. It was so hard to make new friends when everyone already had their little group. It just takes time...
Funny 10 year comparison!
Agree Agree! :) It's tricky, be careful out there, don't want to befriend the wrong girl!
finding new friends post-college is so weird. and now, that we are looking for couple friends, even weirder.
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